My wife and I met at these ages - in the 1980s. The warning i have for you is that you both have not yet learned the kind of patience and forgiveness needed for a lifetime together. That will take time and work. We spent a lot of years in difficult situations and needed to rely on each other. A relationship is hard work.

r/popping

I’ve resolved one adoption mystery and have two more under investigation. It’s very rewarding work.

I’m also working on Euro citizenship for me and my siblings. We may be too late - some international policies are changing and we may be already shut out.

No. Ancestry is the big fish. 23 tried to swim in deep water without a solid established cash flow.

Also, how does someone having access to my (already public) tree matches do additional harm? My real name is globally unique. I’m Very easy to find and ID.

I use it and like it. DNA and all. Yes it’s expensive. I generally pay for a month, then let it expire for a few months while I catch up, then renew as needed.

It is the 900 pound gorilla of the hobby. If you want to get DNA matches, it’s the first choice by far. And it has enabled me to learn an enormous amount about my family - and my wife’s, and several friends who are interested.

If genealogy is your thing, do it. If you only want to half-ass it, there are alternatives.

I don’t mind the name, but it seems awful expensive.