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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • Relating to people in person about online media or TV has always been cringe to me. If somebody is telling me about something they saw I tell them to text it to me. Movies and books are sort of a different story - they have enough depth to generate some interesting conversation.

    It’s much better to relate to people in person about 3D in person things. In order to do that you need to do some of those things. Foraging, baking bread, art, live music, meditation, dance, martial arts, or anything else that happens in person.

    I still pop into Reddit for a few subs and they’re not really that interesting to be honest.


  • Pick something fringe that you have a belief about, like Bigfoot. Look at the evidence, really look at first hand interviews. How many witnesses before it becomes plausible? Do those hundreds of people really get off on making things up?

    You could do this with anything, even western medicine. It takes practice to figure out which part of your understanding was just accepted as truth, and which part you have evidence for.

    The biggest bias that everybody has is thinking that a million people can’t be wrong. That surely some other expert would have discovered it if there was anything there.

    I recently heard of some physics-breaking experiment that had been repeated by a few YouTubers. Two large torus magnets with opposite ends clamped close together. This object falls slower than one of the same mass and size.




  • You are not your thoughts, nor are you your emotions. You are the observer of those things. Somebody presses your buttons, but it is your choice whether or not those buttons fire. For example if a child said some hurtful things to you, would it have the same impact as an adult? I should hope not. What is stopping you from viewing somebody as a child, especially if they are acting like one?

    In addition to cardio, try breathing and cold water. Always breathe through your nose, even when running. Try to breathe through your nose as a cold shower takes your breath away. Or go for the full ice bath. An ice bath tells your body (the producer of anger emotions and chemicals), “hey, I’m in control here, you are not good at assessing threats”. The mind follows the breath, or the breath follows the mind.

    But if I’m being honest I’ve always had a hot temper, and what is really helping me is Lithium. It allows me to observe anger without being overwhelmed by it.




  • Your son chose you as a mother, and you’re doing an amazing job. If you date it’s for you, not to find a stepdad for your son. You are both whole and complete at this moment. It will get easier soon as your son becomes a man. Maybe he will get a job to help out (and give you time for yourself).

    My mom had kids as a teenager too, and she didn’t really get time for hobbies until all us kids were moved out. No big deal she has plenty of time for hobbies now.

    Enjoy yourself, with your son, now. Drag him on outdoor adventures. Try new things.






  • Sorry to hear about your current condition. I have recently stopped drinking coffee, and cut down on the beer, so I’ve been conscious to replace that fluid.

    As gout symptoms are very diet related, if I was in your position I would do some sort of fast or juice cleanse for a week or two. Not only does it reset your body, but it also resets your taste buds, making it easier to maintain a healthful diet.

    Keep in mind you can also get a lot of water from foods. Not just salad but smoothies or yogurt bowl or steamed vegetables.


  • I don’t like drinking water because the fact is you don’t need that much of it. When I was hiking the Pacific Crest Trail, walking 12 hours per day, I drank at most 3 liters, plus a pint for breakfast and a pint for dinner. So that’s 1 gallon total for extreme physical activity. In such a day I would pee maybe 3 or 4 times.

    In normal life in an arid climate my water needs are about 1-1.5 liters. But this can entirely be covered by coffee or tea, a fizzy water, and maybe a beer or bedtime tea.

    The only reason for the hydration obsession is excessive salt intake. Because salt and water are always a balancing act, excessive hydration will likely lead to salty snack cravings. If it didn’t we’d have a lot more cases of hyponatremia. The only serious side effect of being in the yellow pee club is kidney stones, but those are better prevented by lemon water and avoidance of spinach than excess hydration. I have no complaints of constipation or dry skin.

    Drink when you’re thirsty. Eat when you’re hungry. Rest when you’re tired.