Interested in all things behavioral
It’s your job as a parent to teach your kiddos these sorts of things. It might feel uncomfortable, but it is part of the deal. It’s your job to teach him all of these personal hygiene issues. I taught both of my children (boy, girl) these things. For some general info I had to do a lot of research on boy things, as I don’t have those parts. But I did it and we’re fine. This doesn’t just apply to hygiene but all those life skills we aren’t just born with.
Having a masters in behavioral science comes with additional agony these days.
Since my moods swap too quickly I think it’s more a tag team match between myself and myself
Coping skills. It’s fine to get pissed and you may have a strong sense of justice and need to keep things even and explosions bring things back into equilibrium. A lot of “not exploding” on people can be addressed by what you do ahead of time, giving yourself escape routes, and learning new behaviors to replace explosive ones. These can be alternative activities that are incompatible or functionally just better ways to address situations.
-Identify what happens before you explode. How do you feel, what are you thinking, is it the location, people, etc?
-Time out from that moment until you come down from wanting to take people’s heads off.
-Use strategies that you find to calm you down. Some people go for walks, use stress balls, fidgets, chew gum, color, play a game. I know this will vary wildly depending on your location and what’s acceptable. The point is to find some alternative for a few minutes or even during higher stress that you can do.
-Increase activities that bring you joy. Again these don’t have to cost money and may vary depending on your interests.
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Reading this increased my blood pressure.
I’m comfortable saying 0 at this point. I actually don’t really have many memories of childhood. We were just very poor. My parents spent what money there was on cheap can beer and something you need rolled up dollar bills for. We did do fun things, during the good times we had stuffed crust pizza from Pizza Hut and a video. I ended up being really short just from my diet of kool-aid and flint stones vitamins. I remember food things the most. We were spanked, but only occasionally, and this was the norm for the very rural area of Florida I grew up in. I remember mom’s ongoing grudge with the neighbors. She didn’t like them, apparently, because they gave us food when we played. It took many years to piece all these things together. What living family I am related to I am NC with, and have been for decades. I feel like this was textbook neglect exacerbated by poverty.
I know. Why is it so mind blowing that other animals have feelings? Or do they maybe not want that consideration because then they might have to develop empathy for those animals? Sort of perplexing.
Yes, a woman, and yes USD. That’s the no-frills salon price for a trim for my hair which is “long/thick (curly)”. The more expensive places range into the $200s.
Cheapest haircut in my town for my hair type is $75+tip. I just cut it myself now.
Some doubt I guess is healthy. The idea that it’s a sign I’m not an asshole yet is one I want to lean into. My field is known for its arrogant assholes, unfortunately.
You are so spot on about owning decisions and shedding that doubt. It’s something I’m also working on. Experience helps. Being the expert in the room for the first time is daunting for anyone.
I love the way you have put this.
To this day I can’t make myself do a joja run, despite my dislike of the guy who owns the store in SDV.
I’m over here debating “well technically there might be 3 pixels of crosswalk in the next square, but it might also be curb…” and “is that a bus off in the distance or just a suspiciously shaped gray rectangle…perhaps a bench?”
6 years of college and 2 years of supervised fieldwork and I still get imposter syndrome.
I can imagine! I cannot guess what it’s like to try to get big projects done when class is in. Just the oppressive amount of bodies. I remember the net going on once in my elementary school. That was chaos. Hearing “When will it be fixed” a thousand times. As someone who depends on IT (my laptop has become a frisbee more than once) thanks for your hard work. :p
That makes me feel a little better. I know I should do a better job keeping up. By the time I’m done for the day, most of the time my brain is jello. Nice username, btw. I agree it isn’t bad for a short amount of time.
I work in educational support on a 10-month contract. I am paid for the built in holidays and I save a little and take the summer off. I think it is a good work/life balance.
The thing about narcissists is they are never as clever or subtle as they think they are. They get away with everything because their behaviors dysregulate decent people and make it easier to manipulate them. And while it’s obvious, in these little pleased gestures and exaggerated emotions, it still hurts to be manipulated and used. We seek closure to these events, they use that motivation to string the victims along. Terrible disorder.