I’m really only interested in dating other women because of this. I’ve seen how stressful it is to be your partner’s therapist, social circle and keeper of affairs. I really don’t want that. Sure, there are women with the same issues, but they aren’t nearly as common.
It isn’t our fault nor is it our job to make up for your own social failings. I don’t have the time or energy for that.
Edit: men don’t like it when they’re told women aren’t the cause or solution to their problems, got it!
Girl, I’ve seen what it looks like when a cis man leans on their girlfriend or wife as their sole source of emotional support. I’ve seen how stressful it is when they expect for you to act as their social circle and plan events for them; and I’ve not just seen one cis guy do it, I’ve seen several. I’ve had someone do it to me. It’s not my job to fix someone. I cannot be an emotional crutch for someone who won’t get a therapist or refuses to make friends on their own. I have a lot of my own problems I’m dealing with, some of which are fairly significant; I don’t need someone else being dependant on me.
Maybe you’ve had better experiences. I haven’t, nor have a number of the people I know.
Edit: it’s one thing to vent, it’s another thing to expect solutions.
I’m really only interested in dating other women because of this. I’ve seen how stressful it is to be your partner’s therapist, social circle and keeper of affairs. I really don’t want that. Sure, there are women with the same issues, but they aren’t nearly as common.
It isn’t our fault nor is it our job to make up for your own social failings. I don’t have the time or energy for that.
Edit: men don’t like it when they’re told women aren’t the cause or solution to their problems, got it!
Fuck off.
Girl, I’ve seen what it looks like when a cis man leans on their girlfriend or wife as their sole source of emotional support. I’ve seen how stressful it is when they expect for you to act as their social circle and plan events for them; and I’ve not just seen one cis guy do it, I’ve seen several. I’ve had someone do it to me. It’s not my job to fix someone. I cannot be an emotional crutch for someone who won’t get a therapist or refuses to make friends on their own. I have a lot of my own problems I’m dealing with, some of which are fairly significant; I don’t need someone else being dependant on me.
Maybe you’ve had better experiences. I haven’t, nor have a number of the people I know.
Edit: it’s one thing to vent, it’s another thing to expect solutions.