• seeigel@feddit.org
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    7 hours ago

    What’s the reason? Does this come from a different pain tolerance or do women like pain? And if women in general like pain, why?

    From my experience, hot water keeps me focussed on the shower and allows me to relax while I shower less hot if I want to just quickly get clean.

    Could it be that it is not so much the pain but that men in general don’t like the shower taking their focus?

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      6 hours ago

      Body heat is different between the sexes but also average height too. Shower water cools a lot in small distance.

      You will notice your shulders feel less heat than your head. If you check the bottom with your feet, it will be almost cold.

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    11 hours ago

    I’ve never been with a man that can tolerate my lava-hot showers, lol. I wonder if there’s a common reason for this?

    I can’t stand a lukewarm or cool shower, gross.

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    16 hours ago

    why do people gender everything. I definitely like the water hotter than my wife does. whoops, we’re both trans I guess… what a way to find out.

    also my wife is wrong, so are “men” according to whoever made this meme. the best temp is the exact temp that will scold your skin minus 1 degree Celsius.

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      9 hours ago

      this does appear to just be an innocent meme based on maybe one anecdote. it reinforces stereotypical thinking and maybe wants to introduce a new one, but it’s not all that harmful. many people in the comments here shared their own experience and their own gender, and so someone who does visit the comments gains a bit of wisdom instead.

      also screw scolding my skin, I love body temperature or slightly below that showers.

      (reading this back, wow I sound like a crappy AI. my apolocheese.)

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      11 hours ago

      “Everyone knows this temperature dries you out! If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you 1000 times!” - Water 1 degree Celsius hotter than your preferred/best temp to your skin

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    21 hours ago

    Showering with my wife sounds like a sexy, fun idea, but it pretty much always means neither of us are at a temperature we like and whoever’s not under the water is getting cold.

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    My wife would describe the one on the right as “freezing.” The correct temperature, according to her, would be right around the same temp as the surface of the sun.

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    19 hours ago

    i’ve consistently had the opposite experience. i be man. i want the water HOT. partners always prefer cold or room temp water

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    21 hours ago

    I have uttered the phrase, “ARE YOU TRYING TO BURN MY DICK OFF WHAT THE HELL!?!!”

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    Surprisingly the opposite in my house. Even though my husband runs warm and I run cold, if I take a shower right after him, I always have to turn the temp down. He likes to get scalded or something.

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    I used to imagine it would be sexy to shower with my partner but I’ve learned that even women who appear physically delicate in most other situations still temper themselves like steel when they shower. I think that I would get burns from sustained exposure to water that hot.